The Hardest Decision Made

Nov 18 2007

Posted by Mitch as Etcetera, Family

I ate my words again. I remember telling my parents “when I get married, I won’t let my husband work miles away from me as I don’t want my kids to end up in the same set-up as what we had experienced when we were kids”. But you see, time really tests us sometimes. Next thing you’ll know, you just followed their footsteps. Though I know it’s for a good reason, it’s still the hardest decision that both of us made so far. In time, you’ll know why I said it, when I’m ready to share it here…

Anyway, to cut this melodrama short, I’ve also submitted my resignation today.

It’s so sad that my husband has to join them on or before 1st of December. Yes, that soon. Meaning, I have to manage the next two weeks left till I finally finished my obligations here. I just hope and pray that we will get seats before Christmas, otherwise we’re stuck here until January.

Hubby did his errands this morning including the homeworks that I requested him to do for me. He went to our embassy for some procedures. He didn’t want to leave without having our marriage registered in the Phil. Embassy hahaha! He’s getting so paranoid that he even told me to “be good” this morning.

Cargo boxes will be delivered to us on Friday, so I guess I have to start sorting our things out tonight while he’s still here.

Informed the banks that I’ll be settling and closing my credit card accounts soon. Jesus! That’s a lot of money! I have 3 cards to settle otherwise they won’t let me step out of this country. Thank God that I’m only paying a low minimum amount monthly otherwise my indemnity will go just like that.

Yeah right Mitch! You’ve organized things so well already but your boss hasn’t acknowledged your resignation yet. Our conversation didn’t go well yesterday. It felt like being scolded by my father for taking a sudden decision. He hung up saying “I’ll talk to you again when you submitted your letter officially…” It’s flattering to know that he wanted us to stay but then sometimes we need to take the risk for a new start. I don’t think just by renewing our contracts every 2 years will lead us to a better life here.

And I’m actually crying while writing this… Waaaaaaaaaah! I hate goodbyes. I hate making decisions. I hate long distance relationship. But here I am embracing all these hates for the better.

Oh well, that’s about it! I can still call myself an official OFW until the 18th of December, my last working day…

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15 Responses

mk

November 18th, 2007 at 15:25
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oooow, i dont know what to say to make u feel better so il just leave a quote i chanced upon earlier today and truly inspired me:

“But the real secret to total gorgeousness is to believe in yourself, have self confidence, and try to be secure in your decisions and thoughts.”
Kirsten Dunst

i admire ur strength mitch. nde lahat kaya ginagawa u. stay strong. God will lead ur way.

im just here sis, if u need me.

Thanks a lot sis!
julie

November 18th, 2007 at 17:08
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I may be doing just that Mitch, what you did. But I am not sure yet. Hope we can see each other when you come back.

Ingat!

Looking forward to seeing you too! :)
c5

November 18th, 2007 at 17:28
3

Just keep moving forward. Wrong decision is still better than indecision. Look at the bright side. You’ll be back home sweet home! We’ll finally see each other! :)

That’s the only reward that I see right now, will be home soon….
janet

November 18th, 2007 at 20:26
4

really mitch? you’re going back to the Philippines? as i read this, i was reminded of JM Chan’s song:

… we’re all like clouds that move across the sky, changing forms right before our eyes…

indeed, life is a constant change. we never know where we will be the next time we wake up… but this for sure, if we trust in the Lord in whatever decisions we make, we will always be secured knowing that He’s always there to guide us through.

i’m happy for you kasi uuwi ka na.
analyse

November 18th, 2007 at 20:29
5

will the hubs quit bahrain too?

i’m sure you weighed the pros and cons before arriving to this decision so i know, you’re doing just right. you can do it mitch.

so you’ll be in phils for xmas? how about an EB, ill be there too!

Yup, he’ll be somewhere else.

That’s what I wanted sana, kaso fully booked waaaaah! I will let you know if I’ll be able to spend Christmas there….
KK aka Tina

November 19th, 2007 at 03:15
6

Constant change. I only hope for the best for you and your family Mitch.

Thanks Tina! :)
MegaMom

November 19th, 2007 at 03:39
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Obviously, the rest of this drama is still waiting to unfold… I hope it brings good news and surprises! Ganyan talaga ang life, and this will be just the first few of many you’ll have to make over time.
In the end, you will realize that there is a higher being in control, and that it was not “you” who “made” the decision because He guided you towards that decision. :)

Thanks sa encouragement. I really appreciate it.
Kongkong622

November 19th, 2007 at 09:33
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hi mitch!! sometimes the right decision is the hardest to take. if both you and d agree that this is the best for the family then maybe it is. being away from your loved ones is really a bitter pill. however, hope that this arrangement will be temporary and soon you, deye, and d will be together again :)

i’ll be praying for you, sis and hope to see you soon :)

Hirap nga, nag-eemote na nga kami pareho. *sigh*
Vannie

November 19th, 2007 at 06:54
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aww mommy mitch,ur coming home :) and starting new..that’s scary!
but just follow ur instincts and u’l be fine!

good luck with everything :)

Thanks sister! :)
feng

November 19th, 2007 at 10:57
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(((hugs))) from here sis! hope you’re OK.

Thanks for the hugs. :) Trying….
N!cE

November 19th, 2007 at 14:04
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Oh that’s a very tough decision Mitch so it’s understandable that you feel that way.

I hope and pray for the best for you and your family. *hugs*

N!cE
http://www.mommastuff.com
http://www.nicemorning.net

Thanks N!cE! :)
Arlene

November 19th, 2007 at 16:33
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ayan ayan, pina-iyak mo rin ako. Just can’t imagine the changes the 3 of you will go thru…but I trust you and derrick that this is all for the better. don’t worry about your boss, nagulat lang siguro sya sa sinabi mo. hehehe.
and for christmas? hope you’ll make it home nalang.——— ay bakit ngayon pa na pasko.

ingat sis ((hugssssssss))) pahid luha.

Sa madaling salita pwede na akong iwelcome sa Samahang Malamig Ang Pasko. :p

Re: my boss, di pa din ako kinakausap. Hehehe! Tampururot!
annamanila

November 19th, 2007 at 16:47
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Omg. That implies you’re coming home with Derelle. Why? How? And when? I am sure you have weighed the pros and cons and have made a decision on this basis.

There are many things that can be said about marriages with spaces in its togetherness. Read Kahlil Gibran.

All best, Mitch. God bless.

Why? Kasi hubs got a job offer. He’ll soon be working with DHL. Ayan sinabi ko na pero di ko pa din sasabihin kung saan, saka na. How? Ano pong how? Hehehe! When, target date sa 20th December kung… may available seats kaso wala.

Thanks po sa inyo!
pinayhekmi

November 20th, 2007 at 00:18
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Ah, that’s very hard indeed. I hope to never have to make the same decision of being far away from my family. But never say never right?

That’s true. I never thought we would be in this situation.
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