Dilemmas Of A Working Mom

Just like Mommy Feng of From Dawn Till Dusk, I, too, have my dilemmas. If I choose to be a stay at home mom, our expenses might reach over head or kung may tataas pa sa head, malamang dun aabot hehehe!

But seriously, who would not want to be with their kids 24/7 lalo na when they are still small? Tapos sabayan pa ng nagkakasakit. Everytime, Derelle gets her immunization shots I feel paranoid na. Kasi kasunod nun sigurado ay lagnat. Kung swertihin at maagapan ng gamot, wala. pero syempre yung comfort na alam mong maibibigay mo sa anak mo kapag nasaktan o natusok ng karayom.

Working mothers like us must be missing a lot about our kids. Lalo na yung “firsts”. You’re lucky if it happened when you were around. I feel disappointed kapag huli na pala akong nakakita na nagawa na yun ng anak ko. My husband spends most of the time at home when Deye is awake. Split shift kasi sya, ako naman whole day wala sa bahay kasi office hours. Kaya sya yung mas laging nauunang nakakaalam. Sometimes I would tell him “hey, guess what, Deye did this blah blah blah” with all my excitement expecting that I was the first one to witness it. And he would respond, “yeah, she did that yesterday too”. O di ba nakaka-disappoint?

Hay buhay nga naman ng working nanay!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Blogger since 2007 | Home-based Marketing Assistant | WAHM | Ex-OFW | Music enthusiast | Cactus and Succulent Hobbyist | A 41 y/o mom of two lovely girls sharing her adventures as she walks through motherhood and having to do most things on her own while her Indian national husband works miles away from home.

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  1. at talagang ginawang separate entry ito! hehehe.

    hi mitch, if only resigning is as easy as that, who wouldn’t want to be be SAHM right? pag may sakit nga ang anak ko, sabay iiyak na ko nyan at mag eemote ng “huhuhu, ayaw ko ng mag-work, aalagaan ko na lang si Nico”. tapos pag magaling na sya, ayun, sabay pasok ulit sa office.

    hay, life of a working mom. 🙂

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  2. when i had my daughter, it never really occured to me na kelangan kong mag work until dumating sa point na na-realize kong even if hands-on-mom ako eh di ko naman mabibigay sa kanya yung mga needs nya. so i decided to work (overseas) despite the fact na she was just a year old. it was hard at first but seeing her right now, i think i made the right decision since she doesn’t need to sacrifice any of her dreams (of becoming a pianist or an artist some day) just because mommy couldn’t afford paying for classes.

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  3. Ganyan din ako noong nagpapalaki pa lang ako ng mga anak. I would get so disappointed and even jealous when, upon coming home, the yaya would tell me: “Ay ate, alam mo, si Gem kanina, humakbang na mula kama hanggang pintuan.” Buti pa siya, na-witness niya. 🙁

    Anyway, if we don’t work naman, kawawa din mga anak natin, di ba, if we can’t provide them all they need. Siguro, sa akin, make the most of the time we have with our kids na lang. Relish whatever time we share with them, so we won’t feel bad if we cannot follow their day to day developments.

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  4. @ Mommy Chi : Baligtad naman tayo, ako naman sabi ko lagi dati, I will never ever give up my career (kung meron man hehe!) kasi I wanna have my own source of income. Ayoko kasi ng feeling na naaawa ako sa sarili ko na if I need something hihingi sa asawa or magpapaalam…

    But when I had Deye, ready ako “basta di makakasama sa sitwasyon esp financially”.

    @ Mommy Rhodora : Yun nga eh, lahat talaga may katapat na “sacrifice” kung gustong mapabuti sila.

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  5. kami naman ni frenchguy, yung yaya ang nagsasabi sa min na louna already did that, at ito pa, matagal na daw! so di na lang namin kinekwento yung mga bagong tricks na louna sa kanya to avoid being disappointed hehehe.. basta, she did her first step infront of my very eyes, and i even have a video of that… yep, kulang na lang, nakasukbit yung cam sa kin to capture every moment.. my family in the phils wants to be the first too kasi hehehe..

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  6. Hi Mitch, you hit the nail on the head. Ganun din yun naging reason ko why I stopped working. Actually, I had to lay low na just to get pregnant. Completely stop when we had 2 kids na. It’s hard. HARD!! My husband is very supportive..sya nga may idea and I’m happy he asked me to do it. Now I’m getting back on the scene ulit. Pero part-time lang kasi ayaw pa din ng butihing asawa ko.

    Have you thought about going into your own business?

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  7. Hi mommy Mitch!b

    Mommy Aleli ‘to from Kuro! Yeah, Hirap talagang maging working mom! Napa praning ‘din ako tuwing may sched ng shots and vaccines si Baby Marchelle, kasi nga siguradong lalagnatin siya at iiyak maghapon. Madalas pa naman siyang magluko bago ako pumasok kaya sobrang worried at upset ako on my way to work. Kung pwede nga lang mag absent nang madalas, everytime na mangyayari ‘yun eh! Grabe, ganun pala ang maging mommy! Halos ayaw ko nang umalis sa tabi ng baby ko lalo kapag ‘di masama ang pakiramdam nya. Kung pwede nga lang siyang dalhin sa work eh! At least maaalagaan ko pa rin sya kahit nasa office ako, di ba?

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  8. nice writing, mitch. Yes, who’s the mom who wuold not want to spend time with her baby 24/7. Am glad kahit working mom kay u had memories of those firsts with Deye. For me, i already left my girl when she was 2 months old. bt i had tons of her pictures to be updated of her growth…Wish babies really don’t grow. If pwede pa lang ibalik ang panahon, gusto ko sana balik bb si dimple simula nung 2005 para naalagaan ko xa.

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  9. @ Scrooch : A lot of times. But then again yung “capital”. Saka andito kasi ako sa ibang bansa, syempre kelangan tutok ako sa biz lalo na starting pa lang.

    But I’ve thought of that already. Gusto ko lang yung right timing.

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