“Just because I confiscated the iPad as early as 7am today after hearing them fight over it, they had no choice but to keep themselves busy with something else. They’re grounded till they learned the sense of sharing.”
If you noticed in the above photo, my eldest tried to keep away the book from her sister. This is why most of the time, I try to buy 2 items of each for the both of them because they tend to fight over one thing which I know is common. Now I am thinking that, that practice did not help them learn the sense of sharing because both were used to having their own.
As worried as I am, I googled “sense of sharing” and landed in this article “Tips on how to grow sense of sharing in children“.
Grow Sense of Sharing in Children is not easy. However, with high patience and empathy, parents can help children get used to sharing.
Learning to share is not easy for most children. “But, in a slow and gradual, and use empathy to their views forward, parents certainly can easily build peace among brothers,” says Harvey Karp, MD, author of “The happiest toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient , respectful, and Cooperative One-to Four-Year-Old.”
According to Karp most kids do not understand the concept of the word “mine” and “yours” until they are 3 years old. They think that “what they want”, “that’s theirs”. For this reason, parents are required to teach basic values to children.
He mentioned the first step that must be taken before correct the child’s errors is to know the needs and wants. “When we order and try to correct the attitude of the child, it is of course not good. Children need to know that their wishes respected and honored, “said Karp. And when your child finally managed to share toys, give high praise with enthusiasm like say “good, good boy“.
So the children have developed skills to share, parents are also required to create conditions that sharing is something that should be. Familiarize children always shared, allowing children to always consider the needs of others. Try to give toys that require cooperation. For example, puzzles, blocks, and large paper for painting with. Stories in the books you read can also be an inspiration for children to learn to share. Also, avoid the attitude difference between the children because they are quick to detect when they are not treated equally.
Or should I start dealing it with a “get along shirt“?