We may worry that the affection we give our child will spoil them. It won’t. They need it more than anything else, combined with plenty of attention. We can spoil them by being over-lenient in the face of bad behavior. Letting them get their ways through tantrums won’t help at all.
However, these two aren’t always easy to get the balance right.
Handling a child’s behavior could be the most challenging stage of all. You have to be consistent in what you say or do. This is where I fail, at times. A mother will always be a mother.
Between me and my husband, I’m the disciplinarian. I clearly put in the picture the difference between bad and good. I may be the strictest mother of my age, but in my heart that’s not what it is. I may punish her by letting her stand in the corner, but when I do, my heart cries. And I couldn’t help but to show it. One teardrop is enough to melt my heart.
Recently, I fell sick. I stayed home – to rest. Since I was home, Derrick could also enjoy his break from work. That’s what we thought. After lunch, I tried putting Derelle to sleep. But she won’t. This is what always happens when we’re both at home. Deye never takes her nap.
Hours passed but she was still awake. I was irritated already. I was not in the mood at all. I’ve reached the end of my patience. I yelled on her! I was sick, remember? I think Derrick felt bad, but instead of putting his anger on me, he scolded Deye. That scene seldom happens in our house. Deye is never used to Derrick reprimanding her. She cried and it was real – they’re no more crocodile tears.
I comforted her in my arms till she stopped crying. It’s not called spoiling. It is best described as mothering. I was just being a mother – to the rescue.