After The Wedding: When Two Become One


Lots of couples know exactly what to expect from their wedding day. There’ll be a big ceremony and party celebrating their love for one another! But then what happens once all the confetti has settled and the guests have gone home? That’s when you the two of you have become one and your new life as a married couple begins. And this is when some people start to panic.

Now is the time when you really need to adjust to being in a couple. You will share your whole lives together from now on, and that can be a big jump from simply being in a relationship together. After all, you are now legally tied to one another from your wedding day on!

So, what exactly do you need to do after your wedding? It certainly won’t be easy setting up your new life as a newlywed, but there are some things that you should do so that you get used to married life as quickly as possible. Just follow these following steps. 


Plan Your Honeymoon To celebrate being a married couple, lots of couples plan a romantic honeymoon. Traditionally, couples organized this getaway for straight after the wedding. However, as planning a wedding can be extremely hectic these days, most couples choose to now save all the holiday planning for once they are married. Normally, couples go away within the first year of being wed. Popular honeymoon destinations are locations with a fantastic climate, and most couples head off to the Bahamas, the Caribbean or the Mediterranean. As this is a very special holiday, most people like to treat themselves by pushing the boat out and booking a 5-star all-inclusive resort. If you want to indulge even further, why not think about flying first class?

Preserve Your Wedding Dress For most brides, the most important part of the whole wedding will have been the wedding dress. The dress can also become a very important keepsake to help you look back on your day and smile, even years after the big wedding. However, a dress won’t keep in the same pristine condition that it is in now without some careful preservation, so you need to decide what you are going to do with it. Some brides ask the bridal boutique where they bought the dress from if they know any good companies who specialize in preserving garments. Some bridal boutiques might even offer this service themselves. After the wedding, you will need to get the dress professionally cleaned before you hand it over for preservation. It’s a good idea to get dry cleaners to do this.


Send Out Thank You Notes You will have no doubt received a lot of gifts and presents on your wedding day from all your guests. Lots of couples like to send out a quick thank you note to each guest to thank them for their attendance and present. There is an unspoken rule that couples should send out these notes within a month of their wedding. So, it’s a good idea to get organized with your thank yous so that you don’t send them too late! It is also a nice touch to write everyone a personalized note. That will make each of your guests feel really appreciated, and they will know that you really liked their gift!

Sort Out Your New Home Whether or not you were already living together before you got married, you might want to do up your home after you do wed. Lots of couples get started on various DIY projects around their home after they have gotten married as they see it as a fresh start as a newly married couple. And it’s a great way of putting your own stamp on a property as a couple! Firstly, it’s necessary to make sure you have all the right tools for the jobs that you want to do. For instance, if you want to completely get rid of the previous homeowner’s decor, you might want to go over it with a paint sprayer like the HomeRight Finish Max. And if you want to replace the flooring in some rooms, you will need plenty of handy tools like some hardwood flooring tools. Secondly, as many newlyweds start to plan expanding their family soon after the wedding, many think about getting their home ready for babies and young children. You might want to spend some time transforming your spare bedroom into a nursery, and ensuring all the other rooms in your home are child-friendly.


Change Your Name Even though women aren’t obliged to take their new husband’s surname anymore, many still choose to honor this century old tradition. For many women, it is a sign that they now entrust themselves to their husbands, and is also a sign of their deep love. Even though taking someone’s name is extremely romantic, it can be a  bit of a headache when you are trying to get all the legal stuff sorted! There sure will be lots of forms to fill out! First of all, you need to tell your bank so that they can update your personal information on their system. To do this, you will need to take your marriage certificate to your local bank branch. It is also necessary to inform your local driving licence office soon after the wedding as well. Make sure your employer is also aware of your name change. Let the HR department know, and then they can update their payroll information.


Sort Out Life Insurance This may be one of the most boring points on this list, but it is also one of the most important ones! So make sure you find the time to sort out you and your partner’s life insurance policies once you are married. It is important that you each have a good life insurance policy protecting you, as you never know when the worst will hit. Your or your partner could be struck down by a terrible illness or be involved in a devastating accident. Not only will this leave you heartbroken and grieving, but it will also leave you in financial difficulties. And your finances will be in a much worse state if you had not planned correctly for the unexpected. If you already have a life insurance policy, you should update it as soon as possible so that it is now in your married name. If you are currently financially struggling, there are certain policies that will help the surviving partner if one were to suddenly die.


Think About Retirement Even though retirement may seem like a long way off in the future, it is absolutely crucial to start planning for it now. First of all, you need to make sure that you are both on the same page when it comes to your retirement plans. That means, understanding when you both want to retire by. Knowing your goals will help you better plan your retirement. Next, you should decide how you are going to save for retirement – most couples choose either property or pension. If you have two strong incomes, then you might want to go with both. You should both be aware that each of these methods of investments come with certain risks. For example, pensions can go up or down, depending on how the current markets are doing. However, they are a lot less volatile than saving in property. The property market at the minute is extremely volatile, and lots of homeowners are actually seeing their homes decrease in value. But, you never know when that might pick up, so, as things like this can rapidly change, lots of people are still entrusting their retirement savings in both pensions and property.  


Plan Your Next Adventure So, the wedding is all over, and you have just got back from a very dreamy honeymoon. Now, what’s next? Well, to make sure that your new marriage doesn’t get boring and stale too quickly, the two of you should get to work planning your next big adventure. As I’ve previously mentioned, most newlyweds are very eager to start a family so you might want to think about having a baby. Just make sure that you are both 100% behind this idea before you go ahead with it, as it will be a huge change in both of your lives! If you don’t think you are ready to become parents just yet, there are some other big adventures that you might want to embark on. For instance, a few couples decide to get a pet first to prepare them for the responsibilities that come with having a baby. Don’t want any of these responsibilities just yet? Then you might want to treat yourself and just book another big holiday as your next adventure. Why not go on a second honeymoon to mark your first anniversary?!

So, as you can see, the fun doesn’t just stop once the wedding is over and you are married! You need to start and get ready to settle into life as a happy newlywed!


Marketing Manager at Adventures Beyond Group | WAHM | Ex-OFW | Music Enthusiast | Cactus and Succulent Hobbyist | Hello Kitty Lover | A 42 y/o mom of two lovely girls sharing her adventures as she walks through motherhood and having to do most things on her own while her Indian national husband works miles away from home.

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