We often see and hear how people praise moms for what they do every single day. But did we ever wonder who could be the reason behind that one energized and happy mom? Or should we say, what and who makes her a happy wife? Let’s drop the children this time, that’s given.

Let us also take time to acknowledge the presence and sacrifices of every husband behind a happy wife, may it be your partner, common-law husband, jowa, or whichever way you may want to call your significant other.

Please allow me to get through the bottom of this in full straight English for my husband to understand everything that is written here, word for word.

When we first met and started dating, I wasn’t sure about anything. Our obvious and common differences, you being an Indian, me being a Pinay – I just find it too impossible to make it until the end. In between, there were gaps and issues that we had to fix, and yes, they were fixed and resolved, but then again, I was still unsure about how our future would be. Do we stay in India, Bahrain, or the Philippines? Either way, both need to adjust and deal with it.

Fast forward to getting married, we made it to the day everyone had waited for. Some were unhappy about it, I’m sure, but the majority were at their happiest when we did settle down. I still remember, it was me who took in-charge of the wedding details, until, you asked me if you can at least choose our wedding rings haha! I wanted them in silver, but you wanted them in solid gold, so why not give in?

A year later, we were blessed with a beautiful baby girl. That’s when everything changed – for the better. I’ve seen your other side. Your best side, in fact. You did the majority looking after her during daytime ‘coz I had to be at work. You sacrificed your nap time to give way to her nappy change, meal and milk breaks, housekeeping and all. You had to go to work quickly many times, and sometimes be late for work ‘coz I arrived late from the office. We had that routine every single day for two years, and I never heard you complaining.

Until the hardest part was decided on. You moved to another company/country which had left us no choice but to go back home for good – without you. I was disappointed and sad. I never thought we’d be on the boat as to how we were with my dad when I was growing up. But who am I to complain when you only wanted the best life and convenience for us?

It went on for 12 years – and still, up to this day, I never heard you complained.

❤️ You even sacrificed going home to India many times to be with us here in the Philippines. Sure thing, there were flaws in between but you always try your best to stay cool and understanding during my “sungit” moments.

❤️ You shower us with your love and gifts at any time, that we don’t need to ask you.

❤️ You allow me to decide on many things with no questions and consult me at every decision you have to make.

❤️ You give us what’s supposed to be left for you so that I won’t have to worry about making the ends meet.

❤️ You love my parents as your own and even paid your last respect to my dad with no second thought of spending so much on your plane ticket, knowing that it might affect our monthly budget.

❤️ You are an amazing son to your parents. Your parents deserve recognition, too, for raising a good man! I’m one lucky wife!

❤️ You let our kids be kids, and be their lawyer whenever needed.

❤️ You sacrifice your booze over my make-ups. Oooops, do you? I don’t think so hahaha! But, thank you for buying my make-ups, and for taking over my Lazada account when it’s time to check out haha!

❤️ You are the cameraman behind some of my blog posts. Thanks for being supportive!

❤️ You know what I mean when I call you “pogi” every month-end. Haha!

❤️ You take charge of cooking for us the best meals instead of taking your sweet time during your time-off home.

I can go on and on, and keep talking (writing), but I guess the above is enough to let you know that WE APPRECIATE YOU.

I am glad I married you 16 years ago. I hope that I still make you happy despite my mood swings, pregnant or not haha!

❤️ ❤️ ❤️ This song is for you, ayiiiii!

Ladies, let us give this spot to them. We often forget to praise and recognize them, because we get too busy dealing with our mommy duties, and even complain when we do not receive a bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s Day. Perhaps this is the time that we make it up to them.

Mitch Carvalho

A full-time home-based Marketing Manager by day, 24/7 Mom, and a Blogger at any time. I’m 43 and proud. Mom of Derelle & Erchelle, sharing my adventures as I walk through motherhood and having to do most things on my own while my Indian national husband works miles away from home.