• Child Care,  Guidance & Discipline,  Parenting

    Are Old Parenting Filipino Practices and Beliefs Worth Reviving?

    I became a mom for the first time 13 years ago, at the age of 30. At that time, I heard and actually followed (and still following) some of the old practices and beliefs that the older generation practiced for years. Here are some of the practices that I grew up with and am aware of:

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    Po and Opo. Children are taught to say “po” and “opo”  whether you are related or not. It is a must to insert these words in every sentence that you use when talking to elders. Unfortunately, my children haven’t practiced this that much as their first language was English. However, I always remind them about it and they actually do when they remember.

  • Child Care,  Motherhood,  Parenting

    Raising Girls

    Raising girls (even boys!), a tween and teen at that, is not as easy as counting 1-2-3. It takes plenty of humor, a huge amount of love and trust, and a strong will that everything will be okay. You see, my husband works miles away from us. We get to be together once a year, and that’s the only time he sees them on a day to day basis, for a month. In real life, parenting must be dealt with both the parents. Otherwise, it’s only the mother or the father who has to take all the pressure when or in case something unfortunate happens.

    raising girls
    I could be very strict to them but I guess it’s just normal just like any other caring mother would. They have house rules to follow with no excuses or they get reprimanded.  With my teen, going out with friends is still a no-no, unless an adult or a parent is also with them. However, I am open to her school friends and classmates coming home to pass time, and “do projects” together. I serve them snacks and at times, I try to have a conversation with them, so they can openly tell me things, and perhaps fish info haha!

  • Child Care,  Motherhood,  Parenting

    Let kids be kids

    Let kids be kids.” This is what my husband tells me – all the time.

    We are opposite. I say no. He says yes all the time. I make rules. A lot. Here are a few:

    • Gadgets can only be used up to 9pm on weekdays provided they’re all done with their homework.
    • I allow them to be on Social Media but yes, I have all the access, all notifs go to my inbox.
    • Or they have to finish their homework first then they can go and play outside, in the condition that they should be home before the lamp post opposite the house turns on.

    You can’t blame me. He’s not here. What they become will definitely reflect on me and how I raised them. No, I am not trying to be a perfect mom here but I just feel it’s the right thing to do.

  • Child Care,  Guidance & Discipline,  Lifestyle,  Parenting

    On Encouraging Your Shy Child To Socialize

    This has been my question for the past 8 years “How do you encourage your shy child to step out of her comfort zone?

    Looking back at how my eldest was, I never thought we will go through this stage where I’d worry about her so much. She used to be a people person during her first 4 years but 8 years ago, there was a sudden change where she wouldn’t talk to whoever she is not familiar with, that included her classmates and teachers.