“Everything in life is easier when you don’t concern yourself with what everybody else is doing.”

Or as simple as minding your own business!

If a fellow mom decides to bottle feed her baby, that does not make her less of a mother just because you claim yourself a breastfeeding advocate. Unang-una hindi ikaw ang bumibili ng gatas para sa bata. At hindi mo alam ang pinagdaanan nya bago sya humantong sa ganung desisyon. Be considerate, and do not even try to question her.

If a fellow mom spends over a thousand buying herself a set of makeup or skincare products, do not accuse her nor question her if she manages to prioritize their needs first, dahil bago mo pa yan nahusgahan at naisip eh nagawa na nya yun sa malamang. Bakit, nacheck mo ba kung mas marami ang stocks mo sa bahay kesa sa kanya?

If a fellow mom decides to brag about her happy married life every single day, do not tell her it is too much of exposing details, dahil walang mali sa ginagawa nyang pagmamalaki sa asawa nya. Ang mali eh yung maging proud ka sa asawa ng iba o ng kapitbahay mo. Huwag kang inggitera!

If a fellow mom talks a lot about self-care and love, and actually do it without fail, it is right after all to do that. Because who else will? Paano ka magbibigay ng lakas at pagmamahal sa pamilya mo kung ikaw mismo eh lugmok at walang confidence sa sarili mo. Loving and prioritizing yourself in between is not being selfish at all. It is necessary.

Mitch Carvalho

YOUR DIGITAL MOM NEXT DOOR
A full-time home-based Marketing Manager by day, 24/7 Mom, and a Blogger at any time. I’m 43 and proud. Mom of Derelle & Erchelle, sharing my adventures as I walk through motherhood and having to do most things on my own while my Indian national husband works miles away from home.