This week’s featured mommy is Kat S. The question was “As a mom, will you let your daughter/son live the life you’ve lived?” I never really thought of this until mommy Mitch made us think of questions to ask for this meme. I’m glad I did though because it honestly brought me a lot of revelation about how I lived my life.Growing up, I was part of what I think is the most perfect family.
As the oldest of 4 siblings, I knew I had to set an example. I did well in school, tried to be a leader in everything I was part of, and a follower to my parents. I never tried any kind of drugs (unless prescribed by my doctor), I never party-ed (honestly), I didn’t drink alcohol and thus have never gotten drunk until now. My parents didn’t say NOT to, they were open to it, I just didn’t want to do it.
It was only in college when I got in a relationship and I made sure my parents were ok with him. He was very well accepted by my family and he was invited to family overnights or weeks out in Baguio or Tagaytay. That was how open our relationship was. He is the man I married in the end.
Because I felt that I had such a perfect childhood, I know I lived the life I did because I had such a strong foundation and support system. I didn’t rebel because there was nothing to rebel about. By telling me that it’s ok to try things out, I didn’t because at the back of my head I already knew it wouldn’t do me any good.
So yes, I would let her my daughter live the life that I had, exactly as I lived it if possible. I would give her the same freedom I was given and hope that she doesn’t abuse it. My only challenge is if I could live the life my parents had so I can give my little girl the same childhood and support as I did.
Kat is a full-time stay-at-home mom to her 2-year old daughter. She has contributed some articles to a baby magazine since 2009 and is the author of the blog My Tots Exactly. Her thoughts on parenting and daily living make up most of her posts as well as the milestones of her pretty little princess.