You have one message. That was what my email notifier said when I finally got a reply from NCL offering me a job as the Executive Chef’s Assistant in the galley. That was unexpected. I remember submitting my application 3 months before that. I forgot about it – deliberately. The emails says:

We regret to inform your that the position you applied for has been filled. However, we are pleased to offer you the position of Executive Chef’s Assistant blah blah blah!

I was torn between love and career. As much as I’ve wanted to go, I can’t. I chose not to. I knew it was the answer to my financial constraints but…. how? We were in the middle of our wedding plans. The date wasn’t confirmed as yet but we were half done. My wedding gown was half-finished. Relatives and in-laws were already informed. Papers were submitted to the Church.

I was in a dilemma. D had to know. When I spoke to him, he said “it’s up to you” in a worried tone. I had to ask my parents. And my dad said “It’s a good opportunity, but what would your in-laws think and say about you? That you chose money over him? Not that we are judging them but what if they take it the wrong way? Think about it.” He was actually right.

I was still undecided. The sign of dollars were everywhere around me. But somehow I realized maybe it wasn’t meant for me. It came at the wrong time. If it was, they could’ve replied before that.

Love over career was my final decision. Yep, I chose love over career. I chose Derrick over dollars. Some would think I’m crazy! Impractical! What the heck! It’s my life. I rule my life.

And if you’ll ask me today, at this very moment how I was after that decision? No regrets! My 2Ds, Derrick and Derelle are priceless enough to compensate with the dollars I had lost back then.

Mitch Carvalho

A full-time home-based Marketing Manager by day, 24/7 Mom, and a Blogger at any time. I’m 43 and proud. Mom of Derelle & Erchelle, sharing my adventures as I walk through motherhood and having to do most things on my own while my Indian national husband works miles away from home.