On Marrying > I still remember telling my mom “I’ll never marry a foreigner” yet I married an Indian national. I had no idea what made me say that but at that moment I was really sure of my words that I will never ever marry a different national.

Lesson learned : Never say never!

On Working Abroad > I grew up without my father’s physical presence and because of that I had kept in mind that I’ll never ever work abroad. I will work harder even if I have to do it more than what I am required. 9 years ago I found myself at an agency, accepting an offer letter sent by an Employer in Bahrain. When my mom stressed on those words I said, I told her I won’t be long. I’ll just give it a try and come home after my 2-year contract is finished. Guess how long I worked there? More than 8 years and yes with the same Employer in the same company where I was hired.

Lesson learned : Never say never!

On Long Distance Relationships > I’ve been cheated on a lot of times simply because of this famously known relationship destroyer LDR. By the way, I am talking about a 3 hour drive distance here. Yup, not the long distance miles away distance thing that you are thinking. When me and Derrick got together, we got addicted to ourselves. We never thought or even dared to try this LDR set up. Basically because of me. Why? Because of the fear. Fear of losing him in any way. 9 years later, I let him work miles away from us. For a good cause. Not because I’m no longer afraid to lose him. It’s for our future. And I’m sure everyone would agree that somehow we should think the practical way.

Lesson learned : Never say never!

On Vices > Sometime during our college days, I’d often get invited to some drinking sessions or “night outs where friends drink and smoke sometimes”. I told myself “Na ah! I’ll never sip even a small amount of wine, never!” Did I say never again? yup. I did. But you know what I found myself attracted to some nicely done designed Wine Racks, often found in the bars or even in the houses of some well-off friends and officemates. Eventually, I dreamed of having one. In my own house. An equally nicely designed one that would hold at least 18 bottles of vintage wines. Guess what was the next thing that happened? I found myself enjoying my own glass of wine later on. Not once but many times. And I still am…

Lesson learned : Never say never but drink moderately! *wink*

Mitch Carvalho

A full-time home-based Marketing Manager by day, 24/7 Mom, and a Blogger at any time. I’m 43 and proud. Mom of Derelle & Erchelle, sharing my adventures as I walk through motherhood and having to do most things on my own while my Indian national husband works miles away from home.