A lot of people had already questioned me (and I still am being questioned) “why do you have to work?”
They have good reasons why they think I should not work. But I also have practical answers to their questions.
1) My husband works abroad and is a good provider. My answer to that: If he loses his job, would you feed my children? Or would you even spare a penny for my kids’ milk?
2) You have kids to look after. My answer to that: Did I ever ask you to put money down to pay my nanny?
3) You have all the means to work from home, you have an Internet and everything. My answer to that: I already tried that. Certainly the pay is also good but the schedule is not just for me. I don’t wanna hear another word from my kid that I am always asleep during the time when she’s awake. During the time when I am supposed to bond with her. I didn’t have a social life for a year which I think a person also needs. Yes, I can blog. But until when? Just until the advertisers need me. The competition gets bigger and tougher these days. Blogging is not as stable as having a real job where you see your colleagues and bosses. Virtual assistance is also one of the same thing.
4) So why not just stay at home and look after your kids? My answer to that: No. 1. I belong to an OFW family. My dad supported us and worked overseas all his life. No one thought it could also end. My mom had no job. I was in college. My brother was just about to enter his last level in grade school. My father tried to find another job but he fell sick. I had no other choice but to stop from schooling and left a year of my Engineering course. I was lucky to have given a good job despite the fact that I had no experience at all. To cut it short, I carried the loads at a very young age. Of course not, I don’t want my kids to go through what I had gone through. I’d rather not see my kids 8 hours a day than see them 24/7 with no enough food on the table, no money to buy the things that a kid wishes for. Definitely it’s not just about money but let’s accept it, without it we would not survive.
To some it’s just a matter of choice. It’s a matter of priority.
Yes it is. That’s my choice. To work for them while I still could. To lend my husband a helping hand in terms of financial. I don’t wanna wake up one day that the only things we could but are the things that we need and not what we also want. Been there and it hurts in the eyes of a kid when she really really wants something but there’s no way she could have it because of the priorities.
Yes it is. They are my priority. That’s why I want the best for them. I don’t mind if I don’t see them 24/7. As I have said I’d rather not see them 24/7 than see them round the clock with no enough food to feed them.
I could go on with my reasons. And to some they might not find my reasons valid the same way I don’t find their questions welcome.
It’s a matter of time. I am certain that the right time will come when the only thing I have to do is watch my kids play in the yard coz I had done everything I had to do.