Rearing Up A Child

A few experienced friends advised me “both parents should agree to only one statement when a child is wrong”. Both should say the same thing. Both should be firm with NO when it is a no. But not in our case.

I understand. Deye is a daddy’s girl. And to compliment with that, D tends to be so lenient with her, no matter what. D would always take her side. He tells me that I’m so strict with her. That she’s too small to understand things. Don’t scold her. Talk to her. I do. But either way, it doesn’t work at times. Because she knows that Dada is there to take her side.

When she does something wrong, I make her sit in the corner. Then I talk to her why Mama had to do that. Believe me! At her age (17 months and 2 weeks), she wouldn’t look at me as if I don’t exist at all! She would look at the opposite direction and keeps herself busy in any way. She won’t even cry. She’s a tough little one! She would imitate my actions when I get upset on her.

D scolds her too but that only happens once in a blue moon. And it wouldn’t even last a minute. He would comfort her right away.

Of course, as a mother, I feel guilty too after every scolding. But I try not to be transparent. I also feel sorry whenever I raise my voice on her. I hardly spend time with her coz I have to be at work all day long. And I don’t want to spend that little time scolding her.

All I want is for her to know the difference between right and wrong, now. Not later when there is no more room for Mama to straighten things up.

While I was writing this… Mommy Dine shared her thoughts, her experience and the outcome. Now, I’m torn in between! Hahaha!

Thanks Mommy Dine! I’ll remember every word you just said!