To Cane Or Not To Cane?

Teacher Julie tagged me to answer this question “To Cane or Not To Cane?

You see, my daughter is just 2 years old and I think it’s too early for this kind of punishment discipline. I’d rather talk to her or give her a little spanking on her butt using my hand (at least she won’t feel it much because she still wears a diaper LOL!).  Most of the time I do it on her hands especially when she throws food or things that are not supposed to be thrown.

Time out works for us. Now, thats she’s another year older, she understands better why I have to do it. She knows when my voice is changed. She knows when I’m mad! She would immediately asked “Mama are you angy?” When I say “yes”, she would say “soyi”, but if she doesn’t, she knows what’s gonna happen. I only have to tell her “Go to the corner now!” in a sterned voice and she knows what to do. She has to stay in the corner for at least 2 minutes, the maximum. I admit, there are times that she rules over me, she knows how to make me smile when I’m really really mad. One sweet smile from her, enough for me to forget what she has done. After the time out thing, I explain her clearly like I am talking to a grown up why I had to do that.

I’m not saying I’m sparing the rod like I won’t ever do it. I’m only human who sometimes gets really really tired and irritated. But for now, yes ‘coz she’s too young for that. And if ever I’d do that, I think I already know the limits.

Now, let’s see what Vannie, Amore, Arlene, Peachy, Analyse and Feng have to say?

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  1. Thanks for doing this Mitch. You are right, she is still too young and words (and warnings) are better this time. Pero king minsan, nakakagigil din, nakakapang-galaiti, ikaw isa pa lang, ako tatlo, lol!

    You know, the more they are “threatened” to be spanked, the more tumitigas ang ulo. But sometimes, it is better pag “nakakatikim” paminsan-minsan. Pag malaki na and better na ang understanding 🙂

    Thanks again, till the next meme 🙂

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  2. Julie, that’s so true! One thing I noticed, she doesn’t listen to me anymore kasi siguro sanay na sya na lagi ko syang sinisita. But when my parents tell her something, even Derrick thru chat lang, naku nangangatog na kaagad yan! But then if I don’t tell her or correct her everytime she does a mistake, naku eh di lalo ng naging spoiled brat! Nabawasan nga ng isang kakampi, dalawa naman ang dumagdag hehehe!


  3. My style will depend on the age & personality of the kids. I have two kids! My eldest (boy) listens a lot so I do more explaining & talking. As for my daughter who’s a bit stubborn she receives more spanking on the butt or grounded (like she’ll stay in her room and she can’t get out until I say so).

    FYI, a friend of mine told me that it’s better to spank them on the butt rather than on the palm or hand. She told me that there are very tiny veins there. If you see that a kid has a talent in painting or has an interest in art better to avoid spanking daw. She has read it once in the magazine 😀 ! Noted, baka nga mamaya eh maging artist sila 😉 !

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