Remember the day when I posted “The struggles in finding a new nanny“? The title of this blog post answers your question. Yes, we didn’t find the right one. Here’s what happened:

The other day, my mom came home rushing telling me I have another problem. That Rachelle texted her saying she’s leaving the next day. She feels shy to tell me it seems. So I talked to her and asked her. The reason she gave me was “Pinapauwi na po ako ng asawa ko”.

Before I hired you, I asked you many times “Sigurado ka na desisyon niyong mag-asawa ito?” She said yes. I had nannies/helpers in the past who left because of their narrow-minded husbands, who do not even work for the family yet they just didn’t want their wives to work, too. How insane and irresponsible, right?

Few hours later after I spoke with her, she said “Sige na nga ‘te di na lang ako aalis”. I said “No.” I want someone who can be with us for a long time. Not this way but you can’t leave till I get your replacement. The next day, she was not herself anymore. She wouldn’t even do anything. I just ignored her.

That late afternoon I asked her again if she was able to talk to her husband. She finally confessed that it was not her husband. That she’s bored and doesn’t want the job anymore. I also learned that she’s been texting my former nanny, Ate Rose, asking for a textmate because she’s bored, that she’s not loaded with chores here. I told her, in disappointment, “Alam mo, Rachelle, ang gawaing bahay di nauubos kung sana lang may kusa kang humanap ng magagawa. Mas gusto mo pa bang subsob ka sa trabaho kesa yung may time ka pang matulog?” 

I’m not the kind of person who would my helper what to do. Yung may kusa. Right there and then, I told her to pack her things and leave. To my surprise she was even asking for her salary when in fact she has already taken a thousand in advance. I told her “I’m sorry, if you have been honest and told me straight, I would have understood”.

In the last conversations that we had, she has lost her respect. I tried to remain calm though. I told the girls to say bye to Ate Rachelle and she just ignored them and left the house.

I’m glad she’s out of our house already!


Mitch Carvalho

A full-time home-based Marketing Manager by day, 24/7 Mom, and a Blogger at any time. I’m 43 and proud. Mom of Derelle & Erchelle, sharing my adventures as I walk through motherhood and having to do most things on my own while my Indian national husband works miles away from home.