There are times when we, parents, want to do everything for our children. However, it isn’t always possible. In my  case, I get worried especially if it’s my eldest, Deye, who is situated in a place where I know she can’t do everything on her own. She is more clingy to me actually and depends on me most of the time. Unlike my youngest, Ishi, who had shown her sense of independence as soon as she walked and talked. In fact this morning, she insisted that she can put her socks on, without any help.


So I gave in and let her do it but just by looking at her, how she struggled (with a big smile) putting her socks on, it got  me. I had to help her. I had to do it. And that changed her mood instantly!



At that moment, I wasn’t sure of what I felt. Would I be happier or worried that my youngest is as independent as one should be? Isn’t it a good sign of an early developed independence when she goes to her potty in the middle of the night without even waking me up? That she takes a stool when she wants to wash her hand rather than calling for help? I know, I should be happier and proud that my 3 y/0 does these things on her own but what if she won’t need me anymore few years from now? Ah! I’m just paranoid. Maybe.

Mitch Carvalho

A full-time home-based Marketing Manager by day, 24/7 Mom, and a Blogger at any time. I’m 43 and proud. Mom of Derelle & Erchelle, sharing my adventures as I walk through motherhood and having to do most things on my own while my Indian national husband works miles away from home.