On my choice of becoming a working mom

A lot of  people had already questioned me (and I still am being questioned) “why do you have to work?”

They have good reasons why they think I should not work. But I also have practical answers to their questions.

1) My husband works abroad and is a good provider. My answer to that: If he loses his job, would you feed my children? Or would you even spare a penny for my kids’ milk?

2) You have kids to look after. My answer to that: Did I ever ask you to put money down to pay my nanny?

3) You have all the means to work from home, you have an Internet and everything. My answer to that: I already tried that. Certainly the pay is also good but the schedule is not just for me. I don’t wanna hear another word from my kid that I am always asleep during the time when she’s awake. During the time when I am supposed to bond with her. I didn’t have a social life for a year which I think a person also needs. Yes, I can blog. But until when? Just until the advertisers need me. The competition gets bigger and tougher these days. Blogging is not as stable as having a real job where you see your colleagues and bosses. Virtual assistance is also one of the same thing.

4) So why not just stay at home and look after your kids? My answer to that: No. 1. I belong to an OFW family. My dad supported us and worked overseas all his life. No one thought it could also end. My mom had no job. I was in college. My brother was just about to enter his last level in grade school. My father tried to find another job but he fell sick. I had no other choice but to stop from schooling and left a year of my Engineering course. I was lucky to have given a good job despite the fact that I had no experience at all. To cut it short, I carried the loads at a very young age. Of course not, I don’t want my kids to go through what I had gone through. I’d rather not see my kids 8 hours a day than see them 24/7 with no enough food on the table, no money to buy the things that a kid wishes for. Definitely it’s not just about money but let’s accept it, without it we would not survive.

To some it’s just a matter of choice. It’s a matter of priority.

Yes it is. That’s my choice. To work for them while I still could. To lend my husband a helping hand in terms of financial. I don’t wanna wake up one day that the only things we could but are the things that we need and not what we also want. Been there and it hurts in the eyes of a kid when she really really wants something but there’s no way she could have it because of the priorities.

Yes it is. They are my priority. That’s why I want the best for them. I don’t mind if I don’t see them 24/7. As I have said I’d rather not see them 24/7 than see them round the clock with no enough food to feed them.

I could go on with my reasons. And to some they might not find my reasons valid the same way I don’t find their questions welcome.

It’s a matter of time. I am certain that the right time will come when the only thing I have to do is watch my kids play in the yard coz I had done everything I had to do.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Blogger since 2007 | Home-based Marketing Assistant | WAHM | Ex-OFW | Music enthusiast | Cactus and Succulent Hobbyist | A 41 y/o mom of two lovely girls sharing her adventures as she walks through motherhood and having to do most things on her own while her Indian national husband works miles away from home.

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8 Comments

  1. Choices lang talaga yan Mommy. As for me, it was my choice to stay at home. Not only mine but my kids as well. Siguro if the time will come na I need a job, maybe I will but as for now, I am happy being a SAHM. I have waited 8 years to fulfill my dream and so far its going great.

    Yes, very tough na talaga ang market right now. Hirap.

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  2. Korek! It’s also all about being happy of what you are doing. I tried all means na kasi pero hanap ko talaga ang magwork maybe because I’ve been through a lot before and yun yong fear ko, kaya gusto ko parehong may stable job kami. Kasi tulad nyan ang pagiging blogger/VA, di mo siguro dahil sa tight competition.

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  3. parehas us sis na madaming nagsasabi na dapat daw SAHM na alng daw ako kasi si hubby nasa saudi that time…at over OA daw ako dahil kung ano ano ang binebenta ko…pero sabi nga ni rubz, its all a matter of choice. hindi naman natin pwedeng iexplain sa lahat na madami tayon babayarin.

    It is good na hindi ako nakinig sa iba, kasi ngayon na andito na si hubby syempre medyo tight na ang budget…at least naconvince ko sya na dito na muna sya sa pinas at tulong kami.

    Hindi madali ang maging working Mom sabi nila madalas kung gusto may paraan kung ayaw may dahilan…but that is not the case….this is our choice and we had this choice for a reason…

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  4. Naku parehong pareho tayo. Bakit daw kelangan ko work eh asawa ko abroad at sobra daw ako nagpapayaman kasi nga kung anu ano raket ko. Pero bet ko pag ang asawa natin nawalan ng trabaho, ni isa sa mga yan na nagsabi nyan eh paiyakan hingian ng tulong.

    Kakahighblood haha!

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  5. I agree with all your reasoning. Sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, dapat hindi tayo tumitigil sa pagtatrabaho kasi alam natin na may family tayong dapat buhayin. We do everything for them. I don’t have kids but I have my mom and sisters in the Philippines who need me even they all have a job. I want the best for them too.

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  6. Hi Mommy Mitch!

    Another working mom here :D.
    There are times that I wish that i’m just a SAHM to better look after my kids, but to think na sobra na ang expenses ngayon at sa pricey ng mga bilihin, I opt to work pa rin and look for extra income via blogging to better provide for my kids,para sa kanila naman lahat yun. It’s really a matter of choice!

    I’m a newbie here 😀

    God Bless!

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