I’ve discussed and answered here many times when people ask me “Why do you need to work when your husband works abroad?” Here are some of the reasons why I keep working after having kids:
Financial independence. Admittedly, I sometimes ask for extra money from my husband if it’s about running the household and school expenses but for my personal needs? I don’t. One of the main reasons is that I want to be financially independent. In case, I want to try a new shade of lipstick or be updated on the latest nail art craze, I have my own money to spend on. If I want to buy extra pair of cute leggings for the kids, I can get them right away without even consulting my husband. I know he won’t mind but I am also aware that expenses like these are better yet be last on the list.
Personal fulfillment. Household chores can be challenging but I feel more fulfilled when I do other things. No offense to the housewives who are not even into online activities like keeping up with friends through social media, admit it, you feel bored with what you do everyday.
In my case, I am an undergraduate who wants to prove that I can also do well or even better just like the ones who had a degree. That’s already an achievement for me which is also equally a fulfillment to what I have been aiming for.
Meeting people. Nature of my work requires networking. That’s what I love about it. I guess my shyness has finally left my system that I can now mingle with strangers. Isn’t it cool to meet somebody from another part of the world who shares the same interest with you?
I may sound selfish with some of the things I mentioned here, but that’s just being honest to what I think are the reasons why I keep working after giving birth to two kids.
Aww..this is so true.. I’m sure if I’d ever have kids na rin.. I will have the same reasons as you have here 🙂
Sentiments of a working mom lang eh no? Haha!
I super agree with everything you said. I know, because I have been a stay at home mom/housewife for a long time. I got super bored with what I was doing (not that I had extra time for myself or time to go out) but alam mo yun, yung wala ka ng nakikitang iba kundi asawa mo at mga anak mo, who drives you crazy sometimes LOL
I decided to work when my son wasn’t a baby anymore. I loved it coz the time I spent with my son was quality time talaga, unlike when I was with him all day. I had money to spend when I wanted to eat out, or buy ingredients for a yummy but expensive recipe.
Anyway, had to stop working when i got pregnant again (hubby insisted). Now that 2nd child is turning two, I actually will start workng again. I start in a month (accepted na). I am so excited with it actually. Sorry napahaba. Masyado ako kasi nakarelate sa blogpost mo. hehe!
No worries, sis. Feel free to comment. Would you like to do a guest post in my blog, I would love that. Let me know.
O di ba? That’s what you call fulfillment, iba kasi feeling.
Wow! That’s really something to look forward to! Goodluck on your new job!
Sige. Go ako jan sa guest post! Hahaha! Mukhang marami akong mashahsare about being a Stay at home vs a working mom. Let me know the details!
Thanks!
Just feel free, write in freeform for as long as it stays in my niche. I have another one, more on parenting naman:
http://www.sahm-one.com
Dito kasi I post my working sentiments etc.
Let me know…
I agree with you sis,. These are all the reasons I also work. parang nasanay na rin ako na kumikita. There are also things I like to buy for myself na ayoko na ihingi pa kay hubby. Super relate.:)
i guess even if our husband is working abroad, we need to help them earn a living. I wish hubby can work abroad too only time can tell.
Ako sis di ba kakaresign ko lanbg pero pag tinitignan ko ang aking mag soon to be aktibidades heheheh parang di din naman ako mapipirmis at talaga tama ang sabi mo dapat ay may financial independence. Isa yan sa aking fear ang mawalan ng personal fund…kaya kahit na ang asawa ay OFW raket raket pa din pag may time hehhehe